Infidelity. What Now?
Flip on the news to see reports of “Ashley Madison,” read the paper to find a celebrity scandal, or even go drinking with friends to find out that John slept with his wife’s best friend. It seems that no matter who we are, where we are from, or what we do, we can’t escape affairs. Sadly though, knowing that they're all around us doesn't lessen the heartache and emotional strife.
In the wake of an affair, many are left confused, angry, lost, hurt, betrayed or some combination of the five. Experiencing so many powerful emotions will often leave you feeling overwhelmed. It's usually at this point when I hear clients ask the most difficult question of all: "What do I do now?"
I'm here to help you answer that question.
How Infidelity Changes You: Trust and Risk
An obvious but understandable result of an affair is the breakdown of trust between partners. This for many can be one of the most devastating parts of infidelity because it causes an instant perspective shift and sudden feelings of insecurity and vulnerability. With trust in question, it forces you to view your next relational steps through a lens of risk management.
During therapy I'll work with you and your partner to help you decide what 'now/next' looks like and if a continued healthy relationship is worth the risk. When it's not, I still offer help to couples wanting to transition to an amicable relationship (co-parents or friends) or to healthy individual relationships.
Should you choose to take the risk and fight for the relationship, affair recovery counseling can serve as a catalyst for reevaluating, strengthening and enhancing the relationship you have with your partner.